Pegging explained: how to do it safely
Pegging starts with the right preparation. Pegging requires a giver (with a strap-on dildo) and a receiver (receives the dildo in his or her anus).
Using a strap-on harness with a dildo of suitable size is essential. Choose a diameter of up to 3 centimeters for beginners to allow the anus to get used to it. Always use a water-based lubricant to reduce friction and make insertion comfortable.
Hygiene plays a key role: clean the dildo before and after use with warm water and an antibacterial toy cleaner. Communicate continuously during play about what feels good and what does not. Build penetration up slowly to give muscles and nerves time to relax. Safe pegging also means using condoms on the dildo when used anally, especially when switching partners or moving from anal to vaginal play.
Pegging is related to BDSM and falls under the femdom category; the power play is similar to CFNM or cuckolding, where the man is subordinate to the woman.
Why some men enjoy anal stimulation
The male body contains the prostate organ, often described as the “male G-spot.” This gland lies a few centimeters inside the anus and is extremely sensitive to targeted pressure. Prostate stimulation can lead to more intense orgasms than those possible through the penis alone.
(source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12128925/figure/f4/)
Additionally, many men find the psychological aspect of pegging exciting: breaking traditional power dynamics, allowing vulnerability, and exploring a new dimension of sexual pleasure. A 2023 survey of 466 men found that 39% reported that prostate stimulation led to stronger orgasms and longer-lasting afterglow. (1)
The combination of a new stimulus (anal stimulation) combined with the power dynamic (giver has power over the receiver) makes pegging so interesting for couples.
Dangers of pegging
When pegging, it is important to watch out for the most common mistakes. Pegging requires preparation to ensure the receiver does not suffer physical injury from pegging.
Therefore, always apply pegging carefully, let the anus get used to the size of the dildo used, and openly discuss with each other when one of you no longer feels comfortable.
Pegging for lesbians
For women who are attracted to other women, pegging is a suitable way to perform penetration without using a male penis. The strap-on dildo does not need to be held, and with this technique, your hands remain free to stimulate, for example, the breasts or clitoris.
Accessibility
Pegging is accessible and doable for all sexual preferences—hetero couples, homosexual or lesbian. This fetish is very versatile and allows greater exploration of anal stimulation by using an artificial penis on the pubic bone.
Alternative to pegging
An alternative to pegging, where the other is penetrated by a dildo, is to use a sex machine.
The controlling partner can determine how deep, how fast, and how intense the penetration is by turning the knobs of the sex machine.
With a sex machine, you can also perform double penetration, where oral sex and anal stimulation can be practiced simultaneously.
References
- Zaliznyak, M., Walton, A. B., Stelmar, J., Isaacson, D., Gaither, T. W., Knudson, G., & Garcia, M. M. (2025). Anal sex practices and rectal erogenous zone maps among men and women of diverse sexual orientations: an anatomic-map based questionnaire study. Sexual Medicine, 13(3), qfaf037. Accessed on 26/11/2025 from https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12128925/
