Why more and more men are experimenting with anal stimulation
- The prostate is intense: the prostate, a small gland located in the anus, is extremely sensitive and can lead to intense orgasms when stimulated, often more powerful than traditional stimulation. The prostate is unknown territory for many men, which sparks curiosity.
- Reduction of stigma: cultural shifts and open conversations about sexuality have lessened the taboo around anal stimulation. Men feel freer to experiment without judgment. (1)
- Access to information: thanks to the internet and sex education, more men are aware of the possibilities and benefits of anal stimulation.
- Desire to experiment: both solo and with a partner, men seek new ways to enhance their pleasure, and anal stimulation offers an exciting, new dimension.
These factors make it an accessible and appealing option for men of all backgrounds and sexual preferences.
Safety and hygiene tips & recommendations for sex toys
- Use plenty of lubricant: anal tissues are sensitive and do not produce natural lubrication. Choose a high-quality, water- or silicone-based lubricant. Avoid silicone lubricant with silicone toys to prevent damage.
- Start slowly: begin with smaller toys or a finger to let your body get used to it. Don’t force anything; relaxation is essential. If you are experienced, you can consider using Bob or Sora which provide the right stimulation.
- Hygiene is important: clean the area thoroughly before and after use with mild soap and water. Consider an anal douche for extra hygiene, but do not overdo it to avoid disrupting the natural balance.
- Safe toys: use toys with a wide base or handle to prevent them from going too deep into your anus. Sterilize toys after use and do not share them without a condom.
- Listen to your body: stop immediately if you feel pain or discomfort. Anal stimulation should be pleasurable, not painful.
- Communication with partner: If you experiment with a partner, discuss boundaries and use a safe word for safety.
Why anal stimulation is not for everyone
Although interest in anal stimulation is growing, it is important to recognize that it is not the right choice for everyone.
An important reason not to try it is simply a lack of intrinsic desire; sexual exploration should always come from personal curiosity and not from external pressure or trends.
Additionally, medical factors can be a barrier. Men suffering from active hemorrhoids, anal fissures, or other inflammations in the rectal area should avoid stimulation, as it can worsen existing injuries and cause severe pain.
Even if the thought of it evokes physical tension or psychological discomfort, the experience will rarely be positive; relaxation is an absolute prerequisite for safety. When the "vibe" doesn’t feel right or the necessary preparation and hygiene are perceived as too big a hurdle, it is completely legitimate to skip this form of pleasure.
- Wignall, L., Scoats, R., Anderson, E., & Morales, L. (2019). A qualitative study of heterosexual men’s attitudes toward and practices of receiving anal stimulation. Culture, Health & Sexuality. DOI:10.1080/13691058.2019.1627584. Retrieved on 12/11/2025 from https://www.open-access.bcu.ac.uk/7669/
