Common mistakes men make in bed
Men often make the same 5 mistakes that leave women unable to orgasm or experiencing only a shallow orgasm:
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Moving to penetration too quickly
80% of women don’t orgasm from penetration alone. Starting right away without extended foreplay reduces her arousal and makes it almost impossible for her to climax. Women simply need much more time.
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One-sided stimulation
Many men focus only on the vagina. However, the clitoris contains more than 8,000 nerve endings and is the key to intense pleasure.
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An inconsistent pace
Changing the pace and pressure disrupts her buildup to orgasm. Maintain a steady rhythm and only increase the intensity in the final stage. Even the slightest variation makes a woman lose momentum.
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No eye contact or connection
Sex is also about emotional connection. Lack of attention and connection lowers her arousal.
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Stopping too soon after the first orgasm
Many women have a short recovery time and can experience a second orgasm right away. Stopping takes her out of the flow. Cuddle her, and be tender and affectionate for a happy ending.
How to help a woman have multiple orgasms
Achieving multiple orgasms requires a combination of physical technique and mental stimulation. Here’s how:
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Start with extended foreplay
At least 15 minutes of foreplay increases blood flow and sensitivity in her genitals. Combine kissing, caressing and oral stimulation. Ideally, extend this to 45-60 minutes using our detailed guide. This way, you’ll achieve 100% success and guarantee that women climax.
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Combining clitoral and vaginal stimulation
Use your fingers or a sex toy for clitoral stimulation during penetration. This increases the chance of a series of orgasms. Don’t become dependent on sex toys; a woman shouldn’t be impressed by an orgasm caused by a toy. You should be the crucial part of the interaction, not the toy.
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Keep going after the first orgasm
Many women can come again within 30 to 90 seconds after their first orgasm if stimulation continues. Avoid pressure on sensitive areas and build up the intensity again. Make sure she gets some rest, though; don’t go too hard.
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Vary the stimulation
Alternating between gentle and firm touches keeps her nervous system active and increases the chance of a second or third orgasm. Don’t vary things too much in between; vary the stimulation only after the orgasm.
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Stimulate her mentally
Whisper compliments, describe what you’re doing to her, and make her fantasies come true. Mental arousal intensifies physical sensations.
Why do you want to make a woman come?
The reason you want to master this skill is that many men can’t do it. When you’re able to make her come as a sexual partner, you’re automatically better and more special.
There’s another benefit, too: when a woman doesn’t have an orgasm during sex, sex is much less enjoyable and interesting for her. When she has an orgasm during sex, she’ll enjoy it much more and find having sex with you much more interesting.
In other words, what if the roles were reversed and you didn’t have an orgasm but she did? Would you still enjoy it as much?
Exactly, that’s why it’s worth making sure your partner also has an orgasm. Otherwise, it’s only enjoyable for you, not for the other person. Then it makes sense that they lose interest over time.
