Pegging explained: how to do it safely
Pegging begins with proper preparation. Pegging requires a giver (with a strap-on dildo) and a receiver (who receives the dildo in their anus).
Using a strap-on harness with a suitably sized dildo is essential. Choose a diameter of no more than 3 centimeters for beginners to allow the anus to acclimate to the body. Always use a water-based lubricant to reduce friction and make insertion comfortable.
Hygiene is key: clean the dildo before and after use with warm water and an antibacterial toy cleaner. During play, communicate continuously about what feels good and what doesn't. Build up penetration slowly to give muscles and nerves time to relax. Safe pegging also means using condoms on the dildo when using it anally, especially when switching partners or transitioning from penetration to vaginal play.
Pegging is an extension of BDSM and falls under the category of femdom, the power play is comparable to CFNM or cuckolding , where the man is subordinate to the woman.
Why Some Men Enjoy Anal Stimulation
The male body contains the prostate gland, often described as the "male G-spot." This gland is located a few centimeters inside the anus and is extremely sensitive to targeted pressure. Stimulation of the prostate can lead to more intense orgasms than those possible through the penis alone.
(source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12128925/figure/f4/ )
In addition, many men find the psychological aspect of pegging exciting: breaking traditional power dynamics, allowing vulnerability, and exploring a new dimension of sexual pleasure. In a 2023 survey of 466 men, 39% said prostate stimulation led to more powerful orgasms and longer-lasting pleasure. ( 1 )
The combination of a new stimulus (anal stimulation) combined with the power dynamic (giver has power over receiver) is what makes pegging so interesting for couples.
Dangers of pegging
When pegging, it's important to be aware of the most common mistakes. Pegging requires preparation to ensure the recipient doesn't sustain any physical injuries.
Therefore, always make sure you apply pegging carefully, let the anus get used to the size of the dildo used and openly discuss with each other when one of the two does not (any longer) feel comfortable.
Pegging for lesbians
For women who are attracted to other women, pegging is a suitable way to experience penetration without the use of a male penis. The strap-on dildo doesn't need to be held, and this technique leaves both hands free to stimulate the breasts or clitoris, for example.
Accessibility
Pegging is accessible and can be practiced by all genders, whether heterosexual, gay, or lesbian couples. This fetish is very versatile and allows for greater exploration of anal stimulation through the use of a prosthetic penis on the pubic bone.
Alternative to pegging
An alternative to pegging, where the other person is penetrated by a dildo, is to use a sex machine .
The controlling partner can determine how deep, how fast and how intense the penetration is by turning the knobs on the sex machine.
With a sex machine you can also perform double penetration, where oral sex and anal stimulation can be practiced at the same time.
Citation
- Zaliznyak, M., Walton, A. B., Stelmar, J., Isaacson, D., Gaither, T. W., Knudson, G., & Garcia, M. M. (2025). Anal sex practices and rectal erogenous zone maps among men and women of various sexual orientations: an anatomical-map based questionnaire study. Sexual Medicine, 13(3), qfaf037. Retrieved on 26/11/2025 from https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12128925/
