How to always make a woman orgasm

Bringing a woman to climax is not rocket science, not complicated, but it is more difficult than with a man.

It simply requires more attention, time, and energy than bringing a man to climax. A completely different approach that few people know, but that makes it more valuable for those who do master it.

Why does orgasm take longer for a woman?

Considering evolution, this is understandable; as humans, we have a strong primary need for survival and reproduction, so it is better for orgasm or fertilization to happen as quickly as possible. 

A simplified explanation from prehistory:

Women have this quick arousal trait less, since they carry a child for nine months, so Mother Nature wants them to be more selective in their partner and not just choose anyone. Women were also bound to the consequences of sex for nine months. Getting aroused quickly is not a good idea if you want to think carefully about the partner with whom you have to carry a child for nine months.

Theoretically, men could just walk away after orgasm; their part in fertilization was complete. 

Whether that is still advantageous is debatable. But generally speaking, men reach climax much faster than women on average, get aroused more quickly, and are more driven by lust.

Men, in that respect, get aroused almost instantly, like an on-off switch. Even in a cold environment without romantic music, soft lighting, or a partner they see a future with.

Women are more like a thermostat; they simply need more time but can get just as aroused with the right attention. You can't force or speed up the process, just like a thermostat—when it's on, it can take a while to take effect. Even with the best approach, which is unique for every woman, it always takes time.

The approach below for arousing a woman can vary from person to person, but for many women, this is a better method than what most men use.

How to bring a woman to orgasm

Bringing a woman to orgasm starts long before the bedroom; many factors play a role, such as the environment, mood, atmosphere, and state of mind.

Without going into too much detail, we assume the woman has had a good day so far. The house and bedroom are clean, warm, and tidy; ideally, she just came out of the shower, feels good about herself, and enters the clean bedroom that is not too cold, equipped with soft lighting, safely placed candles, and soft background music (ballad category music).

You are ready to share the bed.

Always remember the following 3 essential pillars for an orgasm from your female bed partner:

• Her arousal needs much more time than yours.
• Always work toward a higher point of arousal, from touch, to kiss, to stimulation of her intimate areas, to eventually stimulation of her genitals, not the other way around.
• Go slower than she wants you to; ideally, she will ask you to increase the pace and stimulation. Don’t give in here; preferably, go so slowly that you tease her by not giving her exactly the pace she wants.

For convenience, divide the buildup to orgasm into 3 phases; these phases easily last 30 minutes each, making the entire experience about 2 hours.

Yes, 2 hours is long, something you’re probably not used to, but consider this: she has probably never had a 2-hour lovemaking session. If she does with you, she will never forget it for the rest of her life. Never.

Starting phase:

In this phase, you only work with touch and kissing; you tease her by going extremely slowly, giving her stimulation at a pace much slower than usual, making her crave more. You essentially go below the pace of her internal thermostat; she wants to move to the next step while you take your time calmly.

As soon as you start, it’s naturally important to let her body relax; this is very important in stimulating a woman. Do not sit on her while performing the next steps and always support your own weight; you can stand next to her or lay her on the edge of the bed so you can stand beside her while doing foreplay.

Always say at this moment that she closes her eyes and relaxes, so you can calmly proceed without her watching.

Concrete steps with time indication:

1. Standing or lying down: Start by slowly and intimately kissing her arms, gently stroking her shoulders, upper arms, and forearms with your hands. Move and kiss from the forearms to the upper arms to the shoulders. (5 minutes)
2. Tell her she can lie down if she hasn’t already, close her eyes, and relax. If she’s still wearing clothes, you may gently and slowly remove them before she lies down. (2-3 min)
3. Slowly give soft kisses from her shoulders to her neck, just below her ears; take your time. We’re working toward the sensitive points, so from her shoulders (not sensitive) to her neck (very sensitive), not the other way around. In a gradual progression (5 minutes, 2-3 minutes per side)
4. Take her hands in yours and place them above her head, stroke down from her hands with your fingertips and move on to the next step.
5. Sometimes give a kiss that’s just a bit more intense than the others to add an element of surprise. Now that you’ve stimulated her arms, shoulders, and neck, slowly kiss from her cheek to the corners of her mouth—5 kisses per side, left, right, then her mouth. Take your time to kiss passionately. (5 minutes)
   1. Meanwhile, listen to her breathing and analyze her body; if you see she’s enjoying it, breathing deeper, or moaning, you’re doing well.
6. By now you’ve been going for 20 minutes, while many men have already reached orgasm and the woman is halfway there, we are well on our way to giving our bed partner an unforgettable experience she won’t soon forget.
7. The next sensitive area is the breasts, important to know again. We work toward sensitive zones. We start at her breast and take time to give soft kisses around (not on) the breasts. Work from the top of her breast, slowly moving down between her breasts toward the belly. Stop just above her belt and go back over the navel to the bottom of her breasts (5 minutes)
8. Kiss the outside of her breasts and work your way toward the nipples. Start with her left breast, giving kisses around it, getting closer to the nipples each time. Then do the same on the right, and repeat while also stimulating her nipples with your mouth. Do this slowly and gently; not every woman appreciates this equally. (5 minutes)
   1. A good indication that you’re doing well is if you hear her breathing more heavily or moaning as soon as you try something new. Pay attention when you involve the nipples—if she’s quiet or it lessens, in short, if you get no feedback or positive reaction (moan or heavy breathing). 
9. Her entire upper body is now stimulated; she may already be giving hints to go faster or start grabbing you. In that case, tell her to be patient.
10. Stroke her lower legs with your hands while slowly kissing her, from foot to knee, first left, then right. (5 minutes per leg)
11. Now treat the upper legs, gently kiss from the knee to the groin, first left, then right. Stop at least 15 centimeters outside her intimate zone (vagina). (5 minutes per leg)

Her whole body is now stimulated and attentively warmed up, you have been going for 40-50 minutes. The woman in question would normally already be dressed again after an average sexual encounter, but we have just begun.

You can extend the initial phase by including the back of her body, after the belly phase treat her back in the same way and after the legs include the buttocks. You could optionally combine or alternate this with a massage; in that case use your whole hand surface to apply pressure, a good massage oil, and make long gentle movements to massage her.

Middle phase:

Now we move on to actual stimulation of her clitoris and vagina. You have just finished the legs and ended 15cm outside the vagina. Place her legs bent on the edge of the bed, kneel so you sit comfortably in front of her vagina. Lean your upper body slightly on the bed and hold her thighs or feet with your hands. Simply make sure you can reach the vagina well and are in a comfortable position yourself.

1. Give soft and slow kisses around the vagina, do not touch the clitoris and outer labia yet. Move in a circle around the vagina clockwise and then back. (3 minutes)
2. We now need to be more specific and start by kissing the outer labia. We work from the groin, first left then right, towards the outer labia, from outside to inside, again slowly and relaxed. (5 minutes)
3. Now very gently move your lips just along the vagina from left to right, so she just feels that you are touching her vagina with your lips. Tease her by not giving a full kiss on her vagina. Instead, subtly touch her vagina with your lips, as if you are softly brushing along it. 
4. You should feel your warm breath on her vagina. Slowly move your lips from bottom to top along her vagina. Again, slow and gentle. (This teasing phase lasts about 3 minutes).
   
5. Now give her a part of what she’s been waiting for, lick with your tongue from the bottom of her vagina up to her clitoris in one lick. If all goes well, she will moan now and enjoy it immensely. You have warmed her up all this time and now give her clear stimulation with your tongue over her vagina. 
6. Now start by stimulating her orally, make your lips round, lightly suck on her clitoris, and make a rotating motion with your tongue to stimulate her clitoris. Be gentle, don’t suck too hard or rotate too fast; massage the clitoris with your tongue and lips. Occasionally give kisses on her labia, stroke her legs and belly, and try to read well what she likes by watching when she moans or breathes heavily. Experiment and try to see how you stimulate her best.
7. If you see that she finds clitoral stimulation too intense or doesn’t respond much to it, you can gently start fingering her. Always make sure your hands are clean, and that your nails are trimmed AND filed beforehand. (this is extremely important)
8. She might need some lubricant; make sure you have a new and clean bottle of Durex lubricant, not a squeezed tube, ready in the drawer if needed.
9. Normally, she will orgasm after you have orally pleased her long enough. This can take 10-20 minutes, but often, with good foreplay as described above, you can sometimes bring her to orgasm in as little as 5 minutes.
10. Once you have brought her to orgasm, you have basically already won. Her need has been satisfied; unfortunately, some women cannot orgasm through the clitoris. If you already know this, then you also know that this is not the goal of oral stimulation. You can then move on to using your hands and fingering her. Make sure your hands and nails are free of sharp edges or rough spots so it feels pleasant for her. Wash, trim, and file your nails if necessary.
11. After you have brought her to orgasm with your hands or tongue, it is basically free play. You can have sex with her without having to focus on her orgasm anymore. She might even have another one during penetration, which is all the more wonderful.
    
12. You can also choose to go straight to the final phase and set aside your own orgasm. Do this if you see that she is exhausted. Showing that you have fully thought of her this time will pay off double and triple in the future. This is your investment.

Final phase:

After you have fully satisfied her needs and possibly met your own, lie down with her in bed to cuddle and talk for at least 15 minutes. Women bond deeply with the partner they just shared the bed with after sex; prepare a towel beforehand, bring a cup of tea so she can recover, and most importantly, tell her how attractive and sexy you found her just now. 

This final phase in bed is the happy ending of a movie, an essential part to avoid leaving the woman with a bad aftertaste. 

With the above adventure, you’re a better bed partner than 99% of the men she has probably ever shared a bed with. 

If you ever make advances to get into bed after this, she’ll know she’s in for a fun adventure.

It’s important that you know this cycle by heart and possibly practice it before actually sharing a bed with a partner.

With the help of our sex dolls, you can practice this cycle, train your endurance, or become more familiar with certain positions in bed. 

Ideally, you have full control over your orgasm and know how to make women climax before the situation arises, making practice worthwhile.

Below is a schematic representation of the warm-up phase, or the beginning phase. 

Once you master this, you’ll know how both you and the woman benefit from sex. Now that she also enjoys sex and her needs are met, you can expect her to naturally have more interest in sex with you. After all, it has become fun, you know how to stimulate her, and if you’re lucky, no one can do it as well as you now. 

Always remember the key points from this blog, then you can put your own spin on the stimulation process if you want.

• Stimulate slowly and take your time.
• You are an on-off switch, she is a thermostat.
• Make her orgasm (through oral stimulation) the priority, put your own orgasm aside.
  
• Always work towards intimate zones.
• Build up well and prepare thoroughly (towel, soft lighting, ballads music, clean and temperature-controlled bedroom, nails clipped and filed, freshly showered and shaved, perfume or deodorant on, massage oil and Durex lubricant in the drawer, candles lit). 
• Wind down properly, attention, time, cuddling, appreciation. 

If you do all this well, attentively, and with time, your bed partner will almost always climax and derive much more pleasure from the sex, which she will then ask for herself.