How to Always Make a Woman Orgasm

Bringing a woman to orgasm is not rocket science—not complicated, but more difficult than with a man.

It simply requires more attention, time, and energy than bringing a man to orgasm. It is a completely different approach that very few people know, but that makes it more valuable to those who do know how to master it.

Why does it take a woman longer to reach orgasm?

From an evolutionary perspective, this can be explained: as humans, we have a strong primary need to survive and reproduce, so it is better for an orgasm or conception to take place as quickly as possible. 

In prehistoric times, in simplified terms:

Women have less of this rapid-arousal trait because they carry a child for nine months, which makes Mother Nature want them to be more selective about their partner and not choose just anyone. Women were also bound for nine months to the consequences of having sex. Becoming aroused quickly is not a good idea if you want to think carefully about the partner with whom you will carry a child for nine months.

After orgasm, men could theoretically just walk away; their part in reproduction was complete. 

Whether that is still beneficial, we will leave aside. But generally speaking, men simply reach orgasm much faster than women on average, become aroused more quickly, and are more driven by lust.

Men, by comparison, become aroused almost immediately, like an on-off switch. Even in an environment that is too cold, without romantic music, soft lighting, or a partner they can envision a future with.

Women are more like a thermostat: they simply need more time, but can become just as aroused with the right attention. You cannot force or speed up the process; like a thermostat, once it is switched on, it can take a while before the effect is noticeable. Even with the best approach, which is unique to every woman, it always takes time.

The approach below for arousing a woman can vary from person to person, but for many women, this is a better approach than most men would take.

How to bring a woman to orgasm

Bringing a woman to orgasm begins long before the bedroom; many factors play a role, such as the surroundings, mood, atmosphere, and state of mind.

Without going into too much detail, let us assume that the woman has simply had a good day so far. The house and bedroom are clean, warm, and tidy; ideally, she has just come out of the shower, feels good about herself, and enters the clean bedroom, which is not too cold, with soft lighting, safely placed candles, and soft background music (ballads).

You are ready to share the bed.

Always remember the following 3 essential pillars for an orgasm for your female bed partner:

• Her arousal needs much more time than yours.
• Always work toward a higher point of arousal: touch, then kissing, then stimulation of her intimate areas, and ultimately stimulation of her genitals, not the other way around.
• Go slower than she wants you to, preferably so that she asks you to increase the pace and stimulation. Do not give in to this; ideally, go so slowly that you tease her by not giving her exactly the pace she wants.

For convenience, divide the build-up to orgasm into 3 phases. These phases can easily last 30 minutes each, meaning the complete adventure can last 2 hours.

Yes, 2 hours is a long time, something you are probably not used to, but consider this: she has probably never had 2-hour sex before. If she experiences that with you, she will never forget it for the rest of her life. Never.

Beginning phase:

In this phase, you work only with touch and kissing. You tease her by going extremely slowly, stimulating her at a much slower pace than normal, making her constantly crave more. In a sense, you go below the pace of her internal thermostat: she wants to move on to the next step while you calmly take your time.

As soon as you begin, it is naturally important to let her body relax; this is very important when stimulating a woman. Do not sit on her while carrying out the following steps, and always support your own weight. If necessary, stand beside her or place her on the edge of the bed so you can stand next to her while carrying out the foreplay.

At this point, always tell her to close her eyes and relax, so you can calmly get started without her watching you.

Concrete steps with timing:

1. Standing or lying down: Start by slowly and intimately kissing her arms, gently stroke her shoulders, upper arms, and forearms with your hands. Move and kiss from the forearms to the upper arms and then to the shoulders. (5 minutes)
2. Tell her she can lie down if she has not already done so, close her eyes, and relax. If she is still wearing clothes, you may carefully and gently remove them before she lies down. (2-3 min)
3. Slowly give soft kisses from her shoulders to her neck, just below her ears, and take your time. We are working toward the sensitive points, so from her shoulders (not sensitive) to her neck (very sensitive), not the other way around. Build up gradually (5 minutes, 2-3 minutes on each side)
4. Take her hands in yours and place them above her head. Stroke downward with your fingertips from her hands and move on to the next step.
5. Occasionally give a kiss that is slightly more intense than the others, so there is an element of surprise in the progression. Now that you have stimulated her arms, shoulders, and neck, slowly give kisses from her cheek to the corners of her mouth, 5 kisses per side, left, right, and then her mouth. Take your time to kiss passionately. (5 minutes)
   1. Meanwhile, listen to her breathing and analyze her body. If you see that she is enjoying herself, breathing more deeply, or moaning, you are doing it right.
6. By now, you have already been at it for 20 minutes. While many men have already reached orgasm and the woman is halfway there, we are well on our way to giving our bed partner an unforgettable adventure that she will not soon forget.
7. The next sensitive area is the breasts, and it is important to know this here as well. We work toward sensitive areas. That is why we start at her breast and take the time to give soft kisses around the breasts (not on them). Start from the top of her breast, slowly moving down between her breasts toward her stomach. Stop just above her belt and move back over her navel to the underside of her breasts (5 minutes)
8. Kiss the outside of her breasts and work your way toward the nipples. Start with her left breast, giving kisses around the breast, getting increasingly closer to her nipples. Now do the right breast, then repeat this while also stimulating her nipples with your mouth. Do this calmly and gently; not every woman appreciates this equally well. (5 minutes)
   1. A good indication that you are doing it right is when you hear her breathing more heavily or moaning as soon as you do something new. Pay attention to this when you involve the nipples: if she is quiet or the response weakens, in short, you receive no feedback or positive response (moaning or heavy breathing). 
9. Her entire upper body has now been stimulated. She may already give hints along the way to go faster or start grabbing you; in that case, tell her to be patient.
10. Stroke her lower legs with your hands while slowly kissing her from the foot to the knee, first on the left and then on the right. (5 minutes per leg)
11. Now treat the upper thighs, gently kissing from the knee toward the groin, first on the left and then on the right. Stop at least 15 centimeters outside her intimate area (vagina). (5 minutes per leg)

Her entire body has now been stimulated and attentively warmed up; you have been at it for 40-50 minutes. Under normal circumstances, the woman in question would already have been dressed again after an ordinary sexual encounter, but we have only just begun.

You can extend the initial phase by including the back of her body: after the stomach phase, treat her back in the same way, and after the legs, include her buttocks. You could also combine or alternate this with a massage; in that case, use your entire hand surface to apply pressure, a good massage oil, and make long, gentle movements to massage her.

Middle phase:

Now we move on to the actual stimulation of her clitoris and vagina. You have just finished the legs and ended 15cm outside the vagina. Place her bent legs on the edge of the bed and kneel so that you are comfortably positioned in front of her vagina. Lean your upper body slightly onto the bed and hold her thighs or feet with your hands. Simply make sure you can reach the vagina easily and are sitting in a comfortable position yourself.

1. Give soft, slow kisses around the vagina; do not touch the clitoris or outer labia yet. Move in a circle around the vagina clockwise and then back again. (3 minutes)
2. We must now be more specific and begin by kissing the outer labia. Starting at the groin, first on the left and then on the right, move toward the outer labia, from the outside inward, again calmly and relaxed. (5 minutes)
3. Now gently move your lips just along her vagina from left to right, so that she can just feel your lips touching her vagina. Tease her by not giving her vagina a full kiss. Instead, touch her vagina very subtly with your lips, as if gently brushing along it. 
4. She should feel your warm breath on her vagina as you slowly move your lips from bottom to top along her vagina. Again, slowly and calmly. (This teasing phase lasts about 3 minutes).
   
5. Now give her part of what she has been waiting for: run your tongue from the bottom of her vagina up to her clitoris in one upward lick. If all goes well, she will moan now and enjoy it immensely. You have been warming her up all this time and are now giving her clear stimulation with your tongue across her vagina. 
6. Now begin by stimulating her orally: purse your lips, gently suck on her clitoris, and make a circular motion with your tongue to stimulate her clitoris. Be careful; do not suck too hard or move too quickly. Massage the clitoris with your tongue and lips, as it were. Occasionally kiss her labia, caress her legs and stomach, and try to read what she likes by watching for when she moans or breathes heavily. Experiment and try to determine how best to stimulate her.
7. If you notice that clitoral stimulation feels too intense for her or that she does not respond much to it, you can gently start fingering her. Make sure your hands are always clean and that your nails have been trimmed AND filed beforehand. (This is extremely important.)
8. She may need some lubricant, so make sure you have a new and clean bottle of Durex lubricant, not a squeezed-out tube, ready in the drawer in case it is needed.
9. Normally, she will climax after you have pleasured her orally for long enough. This can take 10-20 minutes, but often, with good foreplay as described above, you may be able to make her climax after just 5 minutes.
10. Once you have made her climax, you have basically already won. Her need has been fulfilled; unfortunately, some women cannot climax through clitoral stimulation. If you already know this, then you also know that this is not your goal with oral stimulation. You can then move on to using your hands and fingering her. Make sure your hands and nails are free of sharp edges or rough areas so that it feels pleasant for her too. Wash, trim, and file your nails if necessary.
11. After making her climax with your hands or tongue, the field is basically open. You can have sex with her without having to focus on her orgasm anymore. She may have another one during penetration, which would be even better.
    
12. You can also choose to go straight to the final stage and set your own orgasm aside. Do this when you see that she is exhausted. Showing her that this time you thought entirely about her will pay off many times over in the future. This is your investment.

Final stage:

After you have fully met her needs and, if applicable, attended to your own, spend some time cuddling and talking with her in bed. Be sure to spend at least 15 minutes on this. Women bond deeply with the partner they have just shared a bed with after sex, so lay out a towel beforehand, bring her a cup of tea so she can recover, and above all tell her how attractive and sexy you found her just now. 

This final phase in bed is the happy ending of a film, an essential part of not leaving the woman with a bad aftertaste. 

With the adventure described above, you are a better bed partner than 99% of the men she has probably ever shared a bed with. 

If you ever make advances to get into bed afterward, she will know that an enjoyable adventure awaits her.

It is important to know this cycle by heart and, if necessary, practice it beforehand before actually sharing a bed with a partner.

With our sex dolls, you can practice this cycle, train your stamina, or become more familiar with certain sex positions in bed. 

Ideally, you have complete control over your orgasm and know how to make women climax before the situation arises; practicing pays off.

Below is a schematic representation of the warm-up phase, or opening phase. 

Once you have mastered this, you will know how both you and the woman can benefit from sex. Now that she also enjoys sex and her needs are being met, you can expect her to naturally take more interest in having sex with you. After all, it has become enjoyable, you know how to stimulate her, and if you're lucky, no one can do it as well as you can now. 

Always remember the most important points from this blog, and then you can put your own spin on how the stimulation progresses if you want:

• Stimulate slowly and take your time.
• You are an on-off switch; she is a thermostat.
• Prioritize her orgasm (through oral stimulation); set your own orgasm aside.
  
• Always work your way toward intimate areas.
• Build things up properly and prepare well (towel, soft lighting, ballad music, clean bedroom at a comfortable temperature, nails trimmed and filed, freshly showered and shaved, perfume or deodorant applied, massage oil and Durex lubricant in the drawer, candles lit). 
• Wind things down properly: attention, time, cuddling, appreciation. 

If you do all of this properly, attentively, and take your time, your bed partner will almost always climax and get much more pleasure from the sex, which she will then ask for herself.