How to Always Make a Woman Cum

Making a woman come is not rocket science, not complicated, but it is more difficult than with a man.

It simply requires more attention, time, and energy than making a man climax. It's a completely different approach that few people are familiar with, but that makes it all the more valuable for those who do master it.

Why does a woman's orgasm last longer?

Considering evolution, this is understandable: as humans, we have a strong primary need for survival and reproduction, so it is better for an orgasm or fertilization to occur as quickly as possible.

In prehistoric times a flattened explanation:

Women are less prone to this rapid arousal trait, as they carry a child for nine months, so Mother Nature wants them to be more selective in their partners and not just choose anyone. Even then, women were bound by the consequences of sex for nine months. Rapid arousal isn't a good idea if you want to carefully consider the partner you're carrying a child with for nine months.

After orgasm, men could theoretically just walk away, their part in fertilization having been completed.

Whether that's still so beneficial, we'll leave open. But generally speaking, men, on average, simply reach orgasm much faster than women, are more quickly aroused, and are more driven by lust.

Men are almost instantly aroused in this regard, like an on-off switch. Even in a cold environment without romantic music, soft lighting, or a partner they see a future with.

Women are more like thermostats; they simply need more time, but they can become aroused just as easily with the right attention. You can't force or speed up the process like you can with a thermostat; once it's on, it can take a while to take effect. Even with the best approach, which is unique for every woman, it always takes time.

The approach below for turning a woman on may vary from person to person, but for many women this is a better approach than most men will take.

How to make a woman orgasm

Making a woman reach orgasm starts long before the bedroom, many factors play a role, such as environment, mood, atmosphere and state of mind.

Without going into too much detail, we'll assume the woman is simply having a good day so far. The house and bedroom are clean, warm, and tidy. Ideally, she's just out of the shower, feeling comfortable, and entering the clean bedroom, which isn't too cold, has soft lighting, safely placed candles, and soft background music (ballads).

You are ready to share the bed.

Always remember the following 3 essential pillars for an orgasm from your female bed partner:

• Her excitement takes much longer than yours
• Always work towards a higher point of arousal, to touch, to kiss, to stimulation of her intimate parts, to finally stimulation of her genitals, not the other way around
• Go slower than she wants you to; she'll ideally ask you to increase the pace and stimulation. Don't give in to this; it's best to go so slowly that you tease her by not giving her the exact pace she wants.

For convenience, divide the build-up to orgasm into three phases. These phases easily last 30 minutes each, meaning the complete adventure can easily last two hours.

Initial phase:

In this phase, you're working solely with touch and kissing, teasing her by going extremely slowly, stimulating her at a much slower pace than usual, leaving her craving more. You're essentially slowing down her internal thermostat; she wants to move on, while you take your time.

Once you begin, it's important to let her body relax, which is crucial for a woman's stimulation. Don't sit on her while performing the following steps, and always support your own weight. If necessary, stand next to her or place her on the edge of the bed so you can stand next to her while you perform foreplay.

Concrete steps with time indication:

1. Begin by kissing her arms slowly and intimately, gently caressing her shoulders, upper arms, and forearms with your hands. Move and kiss from her forearms, to her upper arms, and then to her shoulders. (5 minutes)
2. Tell her to lie down, close her eyes, and relax. If she's still wearing clothes, you can gently and calmly remove them. (2-3 minutes)
3. Give slow, soft kisses from her shoulders to her neck, just below her ears. Take your time. We'll work towards the sensitive spots, so from her shoulders (not sensitive) to her neck (very sensitive), not the other way around. Gradually build up (5 minutes, 2-3 minutes each side).
4. Take her hands with your hands and place them above her head, stroke her with your fingertips from her hands downwards and go to the next step.
5. Sometimes give a kiss that's a little more intense than the others, so there's an element of surprise. Now that you've stimulated her arms, shoulders, and neck, slowly kiss her from her cheek to the corners of her mouth, five kisses per side, left, right, and then her mouth. Take your time kissing passionately. (5 minutes)
6. Now you've been at it for 20 minutes, and while many men have already reached orgasm and the woman is halfway through, we're well on our way to giving our bed partner an unforgettable adventure that she won't soon forget.
7. The next sensitive area is the breasts, which is important to remember here as well. We'll work towards sensitive areas. Therefore, we'll start at her chest and take our time giving soft kisses around (but not on) her breasts. Work from the top of her chest, between her breasts, and slowly down to her stomach. Stop just above her belt and past her navel, back to the underside of her breasts (5 minutes).
8. Kiss the outside of her breasts, working your way down to her nipples. Start with her left breast, then kiss her around the breast, gradually moving closer to her nipples. Now do the same on the right, then repeat, also stimulating her nipples with your mouth. Do this slowly and gently, as not every woman appreciates this. (5 minutes)
9. A good indication of whether you're doing it right is if you hear her breathing more heavily or moaning as soon as you do something new. Pay attention to this as soon as you introduce her nipples. Is she quiet or does it fade away? In short, if you don't get any feedback or a positive reaction (moaning or heavy breathing). Then move on to the next step.
10. Her entire upper body is now stimulated, and she may be giving hints to go faster, or even start grabbing you. In that case, tell her to be patient.
11. Caress her lower legs with your hands while kissing her slowly, from the foot to the knee, first on the left, then on the right. (5 minutes per leg)
12. Now treat her thighs, kissing gently from the knee to the groin, first on the left, then on the right. Stop at least six inches outside her intimate area (vagina) (5 minutes per leg).

Her entire body is now stimulated and carefully warmed up; you've been at it for 40-50 minutes now. The woman in question would normally already be dressed for a typical lovemaking session, but we've only just begun.

You can extend the initial phase by working on her back, then after the belly phase, treat her back in the same way, and after the legs, move on to her buttocks. You could also combine or alternate this with a massage. In that case, use the entire surface of your hand to apply pressure, a good massage oil, and long, gentle strokes to massage her.

Middle phase:

Now we're moving on to the actual stimulation of her clitoris and vagina. You've just rounded your legs and ended up 15 cm outside her vagina. Place her legs on the edge of the bed and kneel down so you're comfortably positioned in front of her vagina. Lean slightly against the bed with your upper body and grab her thighs or feet with your hands.

1. Give soft, slow kisses around the vagina, avoiding the clitoris and outer labia. Move in a clockwise circle around the vagina and back again. (3 minutes)
2. Now we need to be a little more specific and start by kissing the outer labia. We'll work from the groin, first left and then right, to the outer labia, from the outside in, again calmly and relaxed. (5 minutes)
3. Now, very gently move your lips from left to right, just along her vagina, so she just feels your lips touching hers. Tease her by not giving her a full-throated kiss. But gently touch her vagina with your lips, as if you were gently brushing it.
4. She should feel your warm breath on her vagina. Now, slowly move your lips up and down her vagina. Again, slowly and gently.
   
5. Now give her a taste of what she's been waiting for. Lick your tongue from the base of her vagina all the way up to her clitoris in one lick. She should be moaning and enjoying it immensely. You've been warming her up all this time, and now you're giving her some clear stimulation with your tongue over her vagina. (This teasing phase lasts about 3 minutes.)
6. Now start by stimulating her orally. Round your lips, suck lightly on her clitoris, and make a circular motion with your tongue to stimulate her clitoris. Be careful, don't suck too hard or rotate too quickly, and massage the clitoris with your tongue and lips. In between, kiss her labia, caress her legs and stomach, and try to gauge her pleasure by observing her moans and heavy breathing. Experiment and see how you stimulate her best.
7. If you notice she finds clitoral stimulation too intense or doesn't respond well to it, you can gently finger her. Always make sure your hands are clean, and your nails are trimmed and filed (this is extremely important).
8. She may need some lubricant, so make sure you have a clean bottle of lubricant, not a wrung-out tube, in the drawer ready for when she needs it.
9. Normally, she'll climax after you've given her oral sex long enough. This can take 10-20 minutes, but often, with good foreplay like the one described above, you can make her climax in as little as 5 minutes.
10. Once you've made her climax, you've essentially won. Her need has been met; unfortunately, some women can't climax through the clitoris. If you already know this, then you also know that's not the goal of oral stimulation. Then you can move on to using your hands and fingering her. Make sure your hands and nails are free of sharp edges or rough parts so it feels pleasant for her as well.
11. After you've made her come with your hands or tongue, it's essentially free rein. You can have sex with her, no longer needing to worry about her orgasm. She might even have one during penetration, which would be twice as great.
    
12. You can also choose to skip straight to the final phase and put your own orgasm aside. Do this when you see she's exhausted. Showing that you've given her your full attention this time will pay off handsomely in the future.

Final phase:

After you've fully met her needs, and you've possibly met your own, lie in bed with her for a while, cuddle, and talk. Spend at least 15 minutes on this. Women bond intensely with their partners after sex, so prepare a towel beforehand, bring her a cup of tea so she can recover, and most importantly, tell her how attractive and sexy you found her just now.

This final phase in bed is the happy ending of a movie, an essential element to not leave the woman with a bad aftertaste.

The above adventure will make you a better bed partner than 99% of the men she has probably ever slept with.

If you ever make any further advances towards her after this, she will know that she is in for a fun adventure.

It is important that you know this cycle by heart and possibly practice it before you actually share a bed with a partner.

With the help of our sex dolls you can practice this cycle, train your endurance or become better acquainted with certain positions in bed.

Ideally, you have complete control over your orgasm and know how to make women come before the situation arises and the practice pays off.

Below is a schematic representation of the warm-up phase or initial phase.

Once you've mastered this, you'll know how both you and the woman benefit from sex. Now that she's enjoying sex and her needs are being met, you can expect her to naturally be more interested in sex with you. After all, it's become enjoyable, you know how to stimulate her, and if you're lucky, there's no one who can do it as well as you.

Always remember the key points from this blog and then you can give the stimulation your own twist if you like:

• Stimulate slowly and take your time
• You are an on-off switch, she is a thermostat
• Make her orgasm (via oral stimulation) a priority, put your own orgasm aside
  
• Always work towards intimate areas
• Build up well and prepare well (towel, soft lighting, ballad music, bedroom clean and at the right temperature, nails clipped and filed, freshly showered and shaved, perfume or deodorant on, massage oil and lubricant in the drawer, candles lit.
• Build up well, attention, time, cuddling, appreciation.

If you do all of this correctly, attentively, and with time, your partner will almost always reach orgasm and get much more pleasure from sex, which she'll then ask for herself.